The Message In The Mess!

Episode Description: Choosing Your Tribe in a Toxic World

Heather Presley Leydekkers

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In today’s episode of The Message in the Mess, we’re having an honest, soul-level conversation about the people we allow into our lives — and the power we have to choose differently.

In a world that can feel loud, chaotic, and emotionally draining, it’s easy to believe we have to tolerate toxic relationships simply because they’ve always been there. But the truth is this: in a toxic world, you don’t have to choose toxic people.

Together, we explore what it means to build a tribe that reflects who you are becoming, not who you once were. We talk about recognizing one-sided friendships, releasing relationships that no longer serve your growth, and giving yourself permission to let connections fade without guilt or drama.

This episode is for anyone who has ever felt exhausted by friendships that drain their peace, confused by loyalty that costs too much, or afraid to choose themselves out of fear of being alone. Through reflection, compassion, and a little humor, we discuss how healthy relationships feel like home — safe, reciprocal, supportive, and grounding.

If you’re in a season of growth, healing, or boundary-setting, this episode will remind you that protecting your energy isn’t selfish — it’s necessary. You deserve people who bring light to your table, not chaos.

✨ Grab a drink, get comfortable, and give yourself permission to choose peace, growth, and the right people. This conversation may be the reminder your heart didn’t know it needed.